jude and lucy, there’s an important verse in the bible that i was reminded of the other day. the verse is from james. it says, “understand this: you must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.”
when i was younger, i used to be quite a spitfire. i still am, to an extent (i got that from my dad). i’m honest and i don’t run from confrontation. these are positive qualities, when controlled. as i’ve grown, i’ve learned to let things go. i’ve learned that some people are crazy. and you can’t reason with crazy. there’s a time for standing up for right and there’s a time to sit back and know that god’s got it covered.
above all, follow god. if he tells you to do something, you need to do it. he will ask you to do things and they won’t always be easy, but remember that god will not lead you to do something that is not purposeful. people will not always respond well to you following god, but that’s ok…do it anyways.
jude and lucy, don’t act in anger. if you’re involved in a confrontation, keep your cool and be slow to respond. rest, pray, seek god. be open to criticism when it comes from someone who cares. think about what people say and consider your response before you say something you’ll regret. choose your battles wisely, kids. they’re not all worth fighting. know when to stand up and when to let it be.
lastly, know how to be a good listener. good listening involves hearing, understanding, and responding. good listeners are hard to come by. many people are too self serving to listen to other people talk. they are too busy considering their response or becoming defensive to be a quality, participatory listener. don’t let that be you, kids. god uses people to teach us lessons about ourselves and about life. its the motive and the message that is important, not your ego.
so remember that verse in james: be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. do this and you can’t go wrong.