“when you are in the final days of your life, what will you want? will you hug that college degree in the walnut frame? will you ask to be carried to the garage so you can sit in your car? will you find comfort in re-reading your financial statement? of course not. what will matter then will be people. if relationships will matter most then, shouldn’t they matter most now?”
jude and lucy, there are so many things that i want you to hold on to. health, hope, work ethic, intelligence and faith. but aside from jesus christ, the most important thing in this life is PEOPLE.
i’ve said this before and i’ll say it again: my dad used to always say “life is about relationships.” he lived his life with a list of priorities and he taught me to do the same. i fail sometimes, mostly at the first priority, but i hold this list close and remember the importance of living by it.
first on the list is your faith in christ. i can’t explain to you how crucial this is to living and living well. sure, i have had my doubts. but my experience tells me that god is with me. he cares about me and he will help me through the shit that life brings. he doesn’t keep bad things from happening but he guides me and loves me consistently. he is my hope and my savior.
next comes family. family is for life, kids. sometimes your family will be the only people there for you at certain times in your life. they understand you, they sympathize with you, they get it. you will share more memories with your family than with anyone else and these relationships will always be number one. from mom and dad, to your brother/sister, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins and someday your own spouse. these people are your frontline. invest in them.
and third on the list of priorities in life is friends. you will find people in life who have your back no matter what. these are the people you need to grasp on to and never let go of. you’ll have other people who call themselves a friend but truly are not. these wet noodle friends are not loyal and will not stand up for you when crunch time comes. brush these people out of your life. they are not worth your time. instead, spend your time on those relationships that walk with you during the ups and downs. these types of friends will be few and far between, but having a few of these people is better than having a million of the squishy type.
so remember your priorities. times will come when you consider other things to be important; looks, clothes, grades, money, houses and cars. but i’ve seen it with my own eyes and i know this to be true: in the end, its faith and people that matter most.